My Ultimate 40 Before 40 To Do Bucket List

Can you even call yourself a blogger if you don’t have a #40before40 bucket list? In October 2017 I turned 37. It came as a little bit of a shock as I still thought I was in my 20’s. I’m not even sure I feel like an appropriate adult the majority of the time but somehow I’ve found myself a parent of 3 children, a small business owner and navigating my way through life with David (who I’ve spent nearly half my life with now!).  This paragraph has me ageing by the second! Joanne Dewberry and familyAnyway, it got me thinking about doing something just for myself. Sometimes we get so distracted by life and “stuff” that we don’t get the chance to do the things we want to do. I’ve also realised this year (2017) that I am absolutely terrible at taking action, I talk the talk but never get anything done! So in true blogger meme fashion, I’ve joined the many others who suddenly realise they are about to get really old and made a list of 40 things I’d like to do before I turn 40 ie. #40before40 bucket list.

October 2020 I turned 40, amidst a global pandemic meaning so many of the things I had planned were put on hold, but hey it’s my list so I’m still working on it!

My Ultimate 40 Before 40 To Do Bucket List: 

✅ 1. Climb a Mountain:  13th August 2018 This has to be one of the craziest experiences I’ve ever had. We (Daddy Moo, Charlie and I) drove to North Wales on the Sunday after checking in and finding somewhere to park the car as the Pen-Y-Pass car park is £10 every 12 hours something to be aware of beforehand, we were not prepared for this! After we ate a picnic style tea, whilst watching Mr Bean on Netflix and headed for an early night.  We stayed at YHA Snowdon Pen-Y-Pass Hostel who kindly gifted us a family room accommodation, Charlie loved the bed which was a double bottom bunk with a single above us we also had our own en suite bathroom.  I’ve never stayed in a hostel before there were so many great points, like the drying room which we needed! and the games room complete with Twister, Scrabble and a pool table.Charlie YHA Pen-Y-Pass

We woke up, were dressed, backpacks filled and drinking a coffee contemplating our mountain climb by 8am. The fog was thick and damp, there was no sight of Snowdon anywhere! The carpark was already filling up fast with excited mountaineers so we decided to set our Strava and go for it. We had already planned ahead that we were going to walk up the Pyg Track and down the Miners which seems to be standard at Pen-Y-Pass as both tracks finished in this carpark, we’d spent some time the evening before looking at the maps and watching people coming down the tracks.  The weather was insane, wind, rain and mist we were soaked through and yet I couldn’t stop smiling. There were a few hairy moments and parts of the track that you were literally scrabbling up across rocks. Charlie was an absolute trooper, he didn’t complain once, keeping me going and instead choosing to savour every moment of our adventure. As the conditions were so bad we made the decision early on to just keep on moving and reach the summit as soon as we physically could. It took us 2 hours and 44 minutes but we finally reached our goal.  After a little family group hug celebration, we climbed the 10 or so steps to the actual summit and hung onto the brass plate on the trig point. The wind was intense I was sure I was going to blow off the top and I daren’t get out my DSLR so we had to make do with some blurry phone pictures. miners track decent snowdon 2018

During our climb, we had met our Army Cadet friends over and over who were excited to see their “mountain friends” at the Summit Visitor Centre.  The fact we could change our soaking clothes for the dry ones in our backpack and grab a coffee to warm up was much needed. We also ate our picnic and after an hour decided to brave the weather outside and make our way back to Pen-Y-Pass.  The wind was still howling but the rain had subsided by the time we descended the zigzag (of doom) and reached the marker where the paths split off into the Pyg Track and Miners. We sat and took in the views with our Army Cadet friends. The Miners Track has some phenomenal views (although the peak of Snowdon stayed hidden behind a cloud so I’ve still not seen it!) and meanders around the lakes. Charlie and I binged watched Merlin on Netflix over the winter so we’re super excited to see Llyn Llydaw, a lake below the mountain where legend has it at King Arthur’s death Bedwyr (Bedivere) threw Excalibur into the lake where it was caught by the Lady of the Lake. We didn’t see Excalibur or the Lady of the Lake but we did spot a lady having a swim. The sun shone and we felt amazing, of all the challenges I have undertaken this so far has been my favourite.  After a nap, shower, delicious pizza, a glass of wine and a game of cards in the Mallory, surrounded by maps and tales of Sir Edmund Hillary we discussed our next mountaineering adventure. miners track Snowdon 2018

2. Break a Guinness World RecordMay 21st, 2020
This was a goal for 2017 but I ran out of time need to take ACTION (my word of the year 2018)! Stop talking start doing! Charlie and I did research a LOT of records in 2017 so we have an idea which we could try and break, like the number of pencils snapped in half in 1 minute NOT run multiple marathons over multiple days in various countries!

Attempt One: April 15th, 2018 the largest seated exercise class.
The children and I went to Southampton FC and spent a fun-filled half an hour exercising whilst seated in the stands. The previous record was 731 people which was set in Hong Kong in 2016 sadly this attempt was a failure, BUT we did have a great time and I’m thinking group events are a good way to try and ✔️ this one-off!

Saints Record Attempt📷 Saints Foundation

Attempt Two: May 21st, 2020 I really did not expect to complete ANY of my list during lockdown 1 but hey look what Megan and I did! We broke a Guinness World Record for the world’s largest-ever online art lesson! 45,611 participants join Rob’s lesson on 21st May 2020, smashing the record of 10,000!World Record Breaker

3. Finish Degree: I started an OU degree as part of my previous life as a Day Nursery Manager. I thought having a degree in childcare would be really useful. In 2009 with 2 babies and a fledgling business, I decided that I couldn’t keep up the momentum. However back in 2014, I received a letter to say I had a number of years left to complete my degree and I thought although I didn’t need/want a degree in childcare anymore I didn’t really want to have half a degree. I have been completing the remainder with units useful to my business. I really thought I would finish this in 2017 but turns out I can’t add up and I’m rubbish at maths (why did I choose an accounting unit!) but whilst on holiday in Corfu I received the LONG awaited email I had FINISHED.  That’s right nailed it I now own a shiny: Bachelor of Science (Honours) Open Degree (QD)

4. Go to America: I booked to go to Las Vegas with my sister-in-law in May 2020 but due to the pandemic, we had to reschedule and start planning our trip again.

Our Las Vegas Bucket List:

  1. Iconic Welcome to Fabulous Las Vegas Sign: Can you even say you have been to Las Vegas without standing in front of the 25-foot-tall sign!?
  2. Bellagio Fountains: 1200 water cannons, shooting as high as 460 feet choreographed to music!
  3. High Roller Observation Wheel: 550 feet spin over the Las Vegas Strip.
  4. Grand Canyon: Believed to be 5-6 million years old!
  5. Hop-on Hop-off Big Bus Las Vegas Tour: What better way to see all the sights!

Would you add anything to our list? Las vegas Sign

Photo by Grant Cai on Unsplash

5. Write A Second Book: 15th May 2020 My first book “Crafting a Successful Small Business” was published in 2012! Come on Joanne how hard can this be! Turns out it was really hard! BUT on the 15th May 2020 I FINALLY published my second book and I did it during #lockdown. Yup, I launched a book about small business networking amidst the confusion and uncertainty of a global pandemic.  It might seem like a peculiar time in which to launch a book about networking when we aren’t able to leave our homes or be within 2 metres of people but having run various networking groups and events since 2009, I know without my network I wouldn’t have got through the past few months. 

Networking A Successful Small Business Banner

“Networking A Succesful Small Business”
ISBN 978-1-5272-6149-5 (paperback) via Amazon and available on Kindle too.
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6. Make a Chicken Pie: 2nd May 2019 Well it definitely won’t be winning any beauty contests soon but hey I made my own pastry and yes it’s in a cake tin 🙈 Appears I don’t own a pie tin 😂
If you are looking for a really easy chicken pie recipe can I recommend English Mum‘s post (even if it is from 2012 ). Although I went for red onions sweated down in some red wine 🍷 which turned the chicken pink was proper lush, even Olive ate it 😊 

chicken pie #40before40

7. Buy A Brand New Car: 

8. See A Puffin: 

✅ 9. Enter the London Marathon: 30th April 2018 this specifically says enter the London Marathon. There is no mention of actually running it and I didn’t get a spot in 2019 and I missed the deadline for 2020, but there’s always next year. But task achieved. london marathon #40before40

10. Speak At A Large Event: 

11. See A West End Show: There are so many super shows I’d love to see in London, Wicked, The Lion King, Les Miserables, but let’s face it. it isn’t cheap.  BHLive offered me 2 tickets as part of Bournemouth Bloggers to see Fame the Musical UK Tour with an all-star cast which is also performing at The Peacock Theatre, London so I figured I’d give myself 1/2 a tick for seeing a West End Show but in Bournemouth. But in a weird twist of fate I “won” 4 discounted tickets to see School of Rock in the WEST END! Nailed it! (Read my Fame the Musical Review too)

school of rock

Did you know that many of the West End shows have a weekly lottery you can enter to “win” the chance to purchase discount priced tickets? You don’t get a choice of date or time but we managed to bag 4 tickets for £80, the price of our seats is normally £77.50 each!  Being massive fans of the Film we literally couldn’t wait, it was all the girls talked about for a week and we were NOT disappointed! I still cannot believe how talented the children in it are! They sing, they dance, they act, they play instruments and they stick it to the man! Jake Sharp as Dewy Finn is phenomenal he literally made the night for me! Created for the stage by Andrew Lloyd Webber, the show includes 14 new songs added to the original ones from the movie, there is a great mix of styles and songs for everyone to enjoy.  The live band makes you feel like you are at a concert which adds to the atmosphere. If you get a chance to see School of Rock you won’t be disappointed.

school of rock battle of the bands

Lottery Information: It’s always free to enter. You simply fill out an online form to enter a draw, some offer extra entries if you post on social media too. Each show varies, for example, Matilda offers two tickets at £25 each whereas School of Rock 4 at £20 each. We had 24 hours to purchase the tickets before our offer expired we had one week’s notice to organise ourselves. Most lotteries provide a list of dates and times during the Summer Holidays I selected everything but during term time I opt for the weekend dates. Good Luck!

Matilda | School of Rock | Harry Potter and The Cursed Child |

✅ 12. Donate Blood: 31st January 2018 I gave blood I’m such a wimp when it comes to needles so this was pretty much one of my worst nightmares. I was so nervous and everyone was so lovely making sure I was OK. Every person I came in contact with thanked me for being there and doing such an amazing thing 💜 I felt so humbled and a tad emotional. It literally took 6 minutes and 14 seconds to take a pint of blood. One pint can save up to 3 people. The whole experience took about an hour, I think we can all spare an hour every 4 months.  That’s pretty incredible. I didn’t expect to be feeling all the emotions but I did! Sign up yourself there are so many pop-up venues that you don’t even need to visit your local hospital. #giveblood

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6th June 2018 I tried to give blood again however, it turned out that my iron levels were too low. It had been a crazy busy day, the weather was so hot, part of me thought I might not have drunk or eaten enough that day and part of me was completely frazzled! Low iron isn’t something new to me I suffered quite a bit when I was pregnant with Megan, and the team gave me a super leaflet with tons of foods to help keep my iron levels up. I was really gutted more so that I had to wait 3 months before I could try again. I think this is a case of lack of self-care on my part.

Donations: 21st November 2018, 24th April 2019, 11th September 2019, 12th May 2021, 15th June 2022

13. Turn On The Christmas Lights: 6th December 2019 Our Christmas Lighthouse, is famous for its stunning Christmas light displays which get better and better each year. Not only did 2019 mark the 10th year but I got to switch the lights on. I’ve always wanted to turn on the Christmas lights like they used in the early years of XFactor. They’d send the singers back to their hometown to turn the lights on to rapturous applause and ample knickers being thrown. Every year we visit Our Christmas Lighthouse, especially on Christmas Eve and Carols on the Petwyn always signifies the ramping up of Christmas festivities, being involved in switching on the lights was literally like a dream come true!

Christmas light switch onI cannot thank Lee and his family enough for welcoming me into their home, allowing me the joy of turning on their Christmas Lights and they also gave me that very button as a gift.  There are no actual words this was amazing!

✅ 14. PaddleBoarding: 19th June 2018 Excuse the wobbly bits, big pants and extra-large thighs and just look at that FACE 😍 If you’re going to try your hand at paddleboarding then what better place to be than sun-drenched Corfu, gliding across the beautiful clear water to the cheering sounds of your children.  We hired a paddleboard for 10 euros and everyone had a go, Megan turned out to be a bit of an expert, unlike Charlie who kept falling off!  It seriously was just the tonic we needed and well yes I have been googling places to paddleboard in the UK, luckily I live on the south coast! I’m also putting paddleboard on my Christmas List! Any advice and tips are welcomed I’m not usually a watersports person but paddleboarding is such a tranquil activity, I felt at ease and such calm, I’m hooked!  

*Edit* In October 2020 I actually bought myself a paddleboard – it’s still wrapped and in the cupboard but the thought was there! Next time I’m in Newquay I am going to try and join the professionally photographed paddleboard tours by Paul David Smith as they look incredible, best get some practice in!

paddleboarding #40before40

✅ 15. See A Band With Megan: 30th September 2022 FINALLY Megan and I went to a concert together! Sadly it wasn’t my choice and I was literally the oldest person in the room/planet! Megan is a huge fan of Sir Chloe an American Band that did a couple of shows in London.
It rained!
Megan made me queue in case she had to be at the back!
I knew none of the lyrics!
BUT…. despite being wet she stood right at the front by the barrier and even got a selfie with the lead singers!
Spending time with Megan who was so happy was literally the best!
see a concert with Megan #40before40

26th January 2019 I’m giving myself half for this as I wasn’t with Megan (#sorrynotsorry) BUT what I thought would be sitting and watching a show with my mum at Lighthouse Poole turned into a party with 1000 other screaming fans!  Can it really be 37 years since George Michael and Andrew Ridgeley formed one of the most enduring pop groups of the 80s?  WHAM! sold more than 28 million records and I don’t care what anyone says it’s not Christmas unless you have heard WHAM!

If like me you are an 80’s living legend 😉 then The Best of WHAM! Show NEEDS to be on your must-see list. As a joke, I bought myself a Choose Life T-shirt thinking I was like well ya’know super cool. When we arrived literally EVERYONE was wearing or buying a t-shirt!

After the first song George, Andrew, Pepsi and Shirlie encouraged everyone to get up and dance, and dance they did. The concert hall of Lighthouse Poole has a sprung floor even if you can’t dance 1000 people bopping away you were flung into the air with glee! We sang and we danced along to the sensational vocals, choreography and an amazing live band.  Gutted when the show ended, even more, gutted when I watched mums videos back and realised that squealing in the background was me *see 19 & 28 does not bode well*.  ‘Young Guns’ and ‘Club Tropicana’ are now my go-to jam! Living the dream!
the best of wham tour

Luckily I didn’t need to get Megan some Big Time Rush tickets to get this ticked off properly!

16. Ride In A Hot Air Balloon: 1st June 2022 Nobody wanted to do this with me as David put it why on earth would he want to be in the air in a wicker (death) basket under a flame? I can see his point! It’s also quite expensive to do by yourself £140 per person. But once I’d put it out to the universe everything seemed to align. Sage does various competitions for their Small Business Experts and one was to win a £100 Virgin Experience Voucher. I enlisted everyone I knew to ensure I won the voucher, then I booked the experience via Topcashback meaning I paid £20.40. Go me! Booked in 2020, still waiting …… YAY over 2 years later I finally got to enjoy my balloon ride! 😍🎈☁️ Such a beautiful & magical way to start the day (and by starting the day I mean a 4am!) the views are incredible. We even helped to inflate and deflate the balloon! hot air balloon #40before40

17. Shower In A Waterfall:

✅ 18. Ride A Horse: 29th March 2019 For the whole of 2016 every other weekend Olive rode a pony for 30 minutes/hour and she loved it. So adding ride a horse to my #40before40 list seemed like a piece of cake. I soon discovered that Jo (from Jo’s Healing Cabin) had ride a horse on her #50before50 list we also completed our FireWalk together (November 2018 #38) together, having someone else with a list is really motivating! As these seem to go with my networking group it suddenly turned into a booked event of 5.

horse riding with Dorset Hill jewellery

I was excited and nervous all the way up until the horse, called Smartie, stood in front of me and I realised I had to ride it! As soon as I’d managed to hoist my leg over and get comfortable in the saddle I knew horse riding wasn’t for me, he hadn’t even moved yet.

team horse riding

The team at Eastmoors Riding School and Livery were amazing, Katie stayed at the back with me, chatting away and making me giggle, offering advice on how to hold the reigns, sit properly and get the horse to do as I wanted. I attempted a trot, but cried and hated it! But hey at least I did it, I guess and it’s a massive tick on the #40before40 list ✔️ and I got to spend time with my lovely friends so all in all, it could have been riding #40before40

19. Sing At An Open Mic 🎙️ Night:  25th October 2018 we did a recky … well that’s what we are calling it after rocking up instrument-less and song-less! So singing at an open mic night takes preparation and planning. Who knew? So now I need to learn to sing a song and play an instrument 😂😂👊👊 How hard can that be?

20. Go To Iceland: I think most people have the Northern Lights and swimming in the Blue Lagoon surrounded by snow on their bucket list.  I bought a 4-day break with Megan in November 2020 but due to Coronavirus, this was again cancelled.

21. Volunteer Work: 10th March 2020 I spent 2 hours in Morrisons chatting to people and collecting donations for Marie Curie. I spent the first half-hour feeling awkward and uncomfortable but everyone was so generous and people thanked me (on behalf of Marie Curie) told me stories of loved ones they had lost and some of their own personal struggles. It was a very humbling 2 hours. It is true you never know what people are going through. I’m keen to work with Marie Curie again, but as you can see from the date 2 weeks later we went into lockdown. marie curie

22. Afternoon Tea At The Ritz:

23. Eat An Eel: 

24. Have An Article Published In A Magazine: Summer 2020 From 2013 until its demise I was an expert for Craftseller Magazine and appeared in most issues.  It’s a little bit business-related and a little bit ego-boosting but I’d love to be published in a printed magazine. Over the summer Networking A Successful Small Business, press release, and book review 📚 appeared in 5 magazines! From September to December, I wrote a feature for The Blackmore Vale magazine and my article “Networking, Still Key For Small Businesses” appeared in Parents in Biz Magazine. This didn’t happen overnight. It’s been a lot of hard work BUT also NETWORKING! (and a couple of cheeky emails!) Getting in front of the right people, building relationships, supporting others and reminding myself in the words of Taylor Swift “You can’t spell “awesome” without “me”!”

✅✅ 25. Purchase 5 Things I’ve Never Bought Before: Screws, kumquat, goats milk, insect/grub filled lollipop and a wedding dress, yes crazy as it seems I’ve never bought these items before! This should be one of the easiest things to cross off my list and yet it has taken me years! #lameass

Kumquat (16th June 2018), is not just a super cool word, but an actual fruit like a tiny orange, which it would seem they like a lot in Greece. During our stay in Corfu, you could buy all manner of things kumquat flavour, alcohol, sweets, actual fruit, fizzy pop the list goes on. Although I did pose for this photo at a greengrocer in Corfu Town I actually opted to purchase a packet of kumquat sweets for Father’s Day …. they were like sugar-coated jellies with a truly unique taste!Kumquat #40before40

Insect/grub filled lollipop (3rd October 2018), I purchased 4 lollipops, 2 mealworms and 2 ant filled varying flavours. The girls were really excited to try these (Charlie not at all!), however, it soon became apparent that Olive liked the idea of eating them but as soon as I unwrapped the watermelon flavoured ant lolly she wouldn’t even lick it! Megan opted for the apple flavoured mealworm and was enjoying it until she’d sucked away the thin layer of lolly over the mealworm and her exact words were “bits of worm are in my mouth” before she binned it! I ate part of the watermelon ant one but not enough to actually get to the ants. Now I’ve 2 lollipops to gift on! insect lollipops #40before40

Goats milk (8th February 2020) I had tried to avoid buying goat’s milk from the supermarket but it would appear that not many farm shops sell “goat’s milk”, goa’ts milk soap and goat’s milk cheese or yogurts in abundance but not milk. I ended up buying a carton in Morrisons. No one was that keen on the taste as a drink so I made goat’s milk chocolate fudge instead! Which is INCREDIBLY hard to make but is super yummy!
goats milk fudge

Wedding dress (October 2021 but I didn’t wear it until 6th July 2022) snapped this bargain BNWT dress from eBay! As soon as I saw it I loved it. I knew I didn’t want to spend a lot of money, I knew I wanted something lace, simple and vintage. This dress ticked all the boxes and was £50! It still had its original BHS tags on. I absolutely broke all the rules 😉 I didn’t try it on until a month beforehand as I had to drop 2 dress sizes for it to fit but seriously it was worth it. I love the dress, love how I felt wearing it and love how it looks in photographs. Happy, happy days. wedding photo Joanne & David confetti

26. Have A Facebook Post Go Viral : 

27. Hit 10,000 Followers On ONE Of My Social Media Platforms: So my Twitter account is currently at 7500 (8852 in March 2021, 9212 in August 2022) so the closest to 10,000 if you’re reading this make sure you are following: Twitter JoanneDewberryfollow me on twitter Joanne Dewberry

28. Record Make A Christmas Album Single: Every Christmas, a whole host of celebs release an album of either old covers or Christmas songs *cough* Alexander Armstrong *cough*. Daddy Moo and I always have a little chuckle and brand them sellouts (sorry!) or maybe they are super shrewd on the whole passive income angle. Who knows BUT anyway I’m going to give it ago! I might include the children who knows! I would like to donate a percentage of the profits (if anyone buys one!) to charity too. OK so one year into my #40before40 and I realise on top of everything else making a Christmas Album is maybe a little ambitious so I’ve scaled down to “Christmas Single”.

29. Win A Small Business Or Blog Award: This might seem like an odd one as during my time in business I’ve won multiple awards but it’s actually been a few years. So I’d like to win one before I start to feel like I’m all washed up!

30. Do a Cycle Challenge: 31st July 2020 I cycled 300km over the month of July. Megan joined me on so many rides she clocked up 150km! Was such an amazing thing to do together. We had lots of wonderful chats and copious amounts of ice-cream! We decided to try again in September – 400km for me and 200km for Megan this proved much harder with Megan back in school – we managed 300km for me and 150 miles for Megan. I never want to see my bike again! 

pedal for a medal

31. Cold Water Swimming:

✅ 32. Learn A New Skill: 27th February 2018 I tried my hand at Rifle Shooting. Not sure it’s a skill I’ll use on a regular basis but it was a lot of fun. Charlie does a lot of rifle shooting with the Scouts, I was so surprised by how heavy and technical it actually was. My best score was 17, which must have been a fluke as most of the pellets never hit the target (which in my defense are tiny!)#40before40 rifle shooting

March 26th 2018 Hot Yoga is another new skill I tried to master! Illana (Hari Hari) and I ventured down to Yoga Lounge Bournemouth to try a spot of Fierce Grace Yoga. Totally overdressed and totally underprepared! Fierce Grace Yoga combines strength and flexibility for both body and mind. Lasting 90 minutes in a temperature of 40 degrees! You certainly are sweating by the end. I’ve never tried Yoga before and I’m not sure my body knew it could bend in those directions.  I wouldn’t say I’d learned a new skill as such but I would definitely go again, I felt revitalised and slept so well that evening. The Yoga Lounge is easily located, with plenty of free off-road parking. The building has great energy as soon as you walk in you are greeted by happy, smiley staff who were quick to alleviate any nerves and answer my millions of questions. Like why does the room need to be hot?  The room temperature heats your body from the inside out, which helps with relaxation, cardio workout and of course, makes you sweat a lot.  Ensure you drink plenty of water before, during and after.
Yoga Lounge Bournemouth Fierce Grace Yoga
March 28th 2018 I gave flower arranging a bit of a whirl! A massive thank you to Edwards Flowers for hosting. Vicky was really supportive and I think I found a hidden talent. Not only do flowers smell amazing, but they are really easy to work with. The perfectionist in me actually liked the fact that there was no right or wrong way, everyone’s creations were unique but looked incredible.

April 30th 2018 Tomahawk Throwing, again not one I will be adding to my list of skills but I gave it a go! You’d be surprised how much “skill” is actually needed to throw an axe! Here’s me posing with an angel which was even harder to hit the target with! tomahawk throwing
16th May 2018 I remember loving pottery classes at school. I also remember making loads of things that “apparently” all ended up in that one moving box from Tokyo to the UK that got lost. That one box, how on earth did that happen? I think though my adult insecurities took over and I found this activity really hard as I couldn’t relax and get into it at all. I was super impatient and found it hard to visualise the colours once it had been fired! But here is my after and before pot, what do you think? Did I succeed in learning a new skill?

Before and after. @charliemoos great dish.

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13th May 2019 Fencing, I have been loving organising Self-employed Team Building Socials and trying new things. Most of the time I’ve discovered that I have very little sporting skill. That was until we tried FENCING! I’m not gonna lie being crowned overall winner made my day. BUT my goodness those masks are hot and boy did my thighs ache for days after. Olympics here I come!

Team Fencing

33. Get a new Tattoo: 13th September 2019 I’ve wanted one for years but keep putting it off because I need to lose weight I’m a scaredy-cat! However, I finally got one! Now I’d like a few more … well maybe!?

tattoo 40before40

34. Got See World Strongest Man: This is my guilty pleasure. I absolutely adore WSM. I watch it every Christmas/New Year for as long as I can remember.  I’d love to go see the Giants live.

35. Go On A Barista Course: We drink a lot of coffee, too much really! So it would be nice to learn how to make coffee properly or even do a latte milk course and make lush looking cups!

✅ 36. Do Something for Charity:  15th January 2018 I organised a headshot session with DK Capture for the networking group I co-host Lemur Linkup, which was obviously hilarious! We raised £50 for Julia’s House Children’s Hospice.DK Capture Photography Session Lemur Linkup

Crafternoon Mind 30th November 2018: Ekkk I forgot how nerve-wracking organising an event like this can be! After weeks of collecting craft supplies all of which had been kindly donated, selling raffle tickets, organising prizes AND putting up posters it was finally time to cross my fingers and hope people turned up. We had 14 crafters in all and the lovely Lexy from Made By Me Craft Parties who kindly ran the card-making table, whilst my mother-in-law kindly supplied the much-needed refreshments, I don’t think the kettle stopped! I could have done with organising an event photographer too, so many photo opportunities I missed out on!Mind Crafternoon Charity event

It was such a lovely afternoon, although I was so busy chatting I didn’t even get a chance to make anything! Luckily, there was A LOT of leftover craft supplies!  After the girls raided the box, we donated all the crepe paper to Olive’s school, the rest we sold on for donations and I can now confirm that everything is gone (OK I lie there are still 200 odd stone hearts 💜) I rounded the donations up to the nearest pound making the total raised £111 thank you, everyone, who supported with money, raffle prizes, cake and your time. Massive thank you also to West Moors Guide Hall who waived the room hire fee.

37. Make A Piece of Silver Jewellery: 27th May 2022 Wedding Rings 💍 as soon as we got engaged we knew we wanted to make our rings. We had parts of David’s grandmother’s silver belt made into bars, and then Dorset Hill Jewellery guided us with tools, patience, support, love and vegan lemon drizzle to create our wedding rings. All stamped at the assay office and wonderfully, special and unique to us.

Sometimes it’s the little touches that mean the most. 💙wedding rings silver jewellery #40before40

✅ 38. Walk On FIRE 🔥: 17th November 2018 Since I added this to my list (although Daddy Moo suggested Fire Eating! this is my tamer version!) local events were popping up all over the place!

firewalk 2018

CRAZY! Well, I did it not once but three times I marched over those hot coals. You literally have no time to think about it and just have to go! It’s a mind over matter scenario. Then you get to walk three and you find yourself wondering if you are able to do a third without hurting yourself, you can’t get cocky or complacent. BECAUSE you are walking on hot coals and blisters did happen. Thankfully my tootsies were toasty not burnt! I raised £102 in total and the event raised an extraordinary £4457.24 for Diverse Abilities. Just amazing. 🔥🔥

Firewalk #40before40

39. Go To The Races: Pre-children I had a bit of a stint working at the Greyhound Racing Poole taking bets. I loved the buzz and excitement of working there. I’ve never been to see any horse racing and would very much love to do #40before40

40. Have A Big 40th Birthday Party! Thanks to Coronavirus this was again cancelled BUT we did skive off school for the day and go to Paulton’s Park. Plus David and I managed to escape to the Isle of Wight for the weekend just before the 2nd lockdown started.

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  1. December 28, 2017 / 4:31 pm

    What a fabulous list! I love birthday goals. So many to talk about – Eat an Eel?? Eew! I love WSM too & to get a blue Twitter tick is a brilliant goal.

    • September 29, 2018 / 1:44 pm

      The Blue Tick is no longer open to the public *sad face*

  2. chichi
    December 28, 2017 / 6:36 pm

    I dont realize either how time has flown and i have crossed 30. Just like you i feel i am in my 20s or even not an adult!!

  3. January 4, 2018 / 10:37 am

    Chuckling away at your last few items! You’ve got some great ones in there, that I’d never think of – record a Christmas album. Good luck with achieving all these. Mich x

    • January 4, 2018 / 10:45 am

      Thank you! I’m really excited about doing them!

  4. January 4, 2018 / 12:20 pm

    Cannot believe you have never bought screws – go and see Hubby, he will sort you out LOL

  5. Telina
    January 11, 2018 / 12:02 pm

    Such a great list! Good luck with achieving these 🙂 x

  6. January 11, 2018 / 12:10 pm

    I’m 54 this year but make a chicken pie is still on my list! Birds Eye make it too easy. Seriously my advice would be not to get hung up on bucket lists. Enjoy each day.

  7. January 17, 2018 / 2:57 pm

    Absolutely great list, best of luck in achieving them! If you want to get a little inspiration on #14 I put together a beginners guide to stand up paddle boarding you might enjoy. 🙂

  8. January 22, 2018 / 8:12 pm

    Yep, I’m one of those people who also want to go to the Blue Lagoon. Loads of luck with book 2 and 3, you’ve got this!

  9. January 22, 2018 / 9:02 pm

    This is so cool Joanne! I see you have already made a start well done

  10. January 22, 2018 / 10:10 pm

    Great family photo Joanne! Xx

    • January 23, 2018 / 10:42 am

      Thank you we had it taken in Corfu a few years ago. When the girls would still wear matching dresses #twinningiswinning

  11. Jackie
    January 24, 2018 / 3:33 pm

    Can you make sure that there is an opportunity for an audience at some of these please

  12. January 26, 2018 / 7:16 pm

    I have just turned 33 and would love to do a 40 before 40. Cant think of 40 things just yet. I have your book!!!! brilliant and really helpful. But can I ask why you would want to eat an eel?

  13. April 26, 2018 / 3:47 pm

    Great list – I need to do a 60 before 60 though! Wow, realised as I wrote that how that’s my next milestone!

  14. June 29, 2018 / 6:10 am

    Woah! What a great list. Your detemination to finish off the list is so inspiring. And SUPing is dope! By the way, you look nothing like going on to 40.

  15. Alexia Browning
    December 11, 2018 / 1:23 pm

    Wow, you’re doing so well with your list and it’s turning into a lovely blog post for some fantastic memories! Can’t wait to see what you do next 🙂

  16. November 28, 2019 / 3:35 pm

    Wow what a great list. I have been lucky and seen puffins a lot. There were some on the cliff where I grew up. So trip to Scotland would work for that one. I’m approving the big 40 in a few years I need to get a list of my own.

  17. January 18, 2020 / 11:11 am

    Omg I’m 40 this october too and this has me thinking maybe I need to get my skates on!!!